Teri Silver is a verslaggever, commercial copywriter, editor, broadcast anchor, and Public Relations Specialist.
What to Say?
Ter today’s rough and harsh, in-your-face world, shyness is a disadvantage — especially for adults. It is significant for you to know what you want and how to say it. While the activity may seem lighter said than done, there are ways to help overcome shyness. One way is to geflirt. Yup, that’s what I said.
Learn to Geflirt: Teri’s Folly
Now, get your mind out of the gutter. I don’t mean flirting ter any kleuter of sexual way, actually, just the opposite. Very first, let mij tell you a story.
I wasgoed a very timid child-turned tiener. I infrequently spoke to people and often hid myself from other kids. I never knew what to say or how to say it, and I always felt like I had to apologize for something. I never dreamed to participate te things. For example, I wasgoed, back then (and still today), a truly good singer but when I wasgoed junior, I wasgoed reluctant to display the world. Learning to geflirt with people wasgoed the best thing I everzwijn did. It switched everything.
I spent many years te radiodifusión, spil a reporter, anchor, producer and program host. Let mij tell you, talking to people face-to-face is much firmer than being a radiodifusión broadcaster. When broadcasting, I am usually the only one ter the studio, all I have to do is turn on the microphone and talk. But when interviewing someone for a news story or talking to others face-to-face or leading a plakband and singing вЂ¦ entertaining an audience вЂ¦ that is hard work, you vereiste keep their attention. If you are timid, it’s almost unlikely.
So, how do you learn to geflirt?
The Positives About You
Commence with a checklist of your best qualities. What do you like about you? It is pointless to be bashful about the good things, so what are they? Never mind what you don’t like, that doesn’t matter.
Accentuating the positive is the key to flirting. Displaying confidence te who you are and looking people straight te the eye, this is the beginning. It may feel odd at very first, but stick with the program for eventually, it will feel natural.
Next, define the word, “flirting.” What does it mean to geflirt with someone? Flirting is talking — human interaction. Many sources define it spil a type of вЂњromance danceвЂќ and indeed it can be, however, flirting does not need to have sexual connotations. You can geflirt with both genders regardless of anyone’s sexual preference — because — flirting is about friendship.
Whether opposite-gender or same-sex, flirting is good for beginning conversations, interjecting opinions and for making other people feel comfy. Flirting also involves asking and listening, ask people what they like, how they feel and most importantly, what they think. Listen to the answers and ask follow-up questions.
Sure, flirting can lead to romance and it often does. But it is also a way to learn more about yourself. If you can talk to anyone about anything at anytime, you can overcome shyness about doing things you have bot afraid to do.
Overcome Shyness, Learn to Geflirt!
Here are some basic tips . but whatever you do is only spil good spil how well you make it work.
- Dress with a little more spark. What is better than a makeover or fresh haircut to help you fan the flame? A fresh wardrobe can help too. Whether the fresh outside-you is at work or at play, add a little color and flair to your appearance.
- Adjust your figure language. Don’t hide te the background, if you are ter a social toneel or even at your job, be sure to stand te pui. Open your eyes, look around, join te the conversation and make eye voeling. Listen to what others are telling. Ask questions. Know when to begin вЂ¦ and zekering вЂ¦ talking. Pay attention to others’ reactions.
- Begin up a conversation with someone you don’t know. Talk about the weather, music, sports, anything that is lighthearted and joy (but avoid politics and religion, you know how that goes). Make jokes, be witty and act ditzy. Smile, smile, smile!
- If you are flirting with someone of the opposite hook-up, or same hook-up for that matter, be sure not to offend his or hier significant other. Let the wives, husbands, girlfriends and bf’s ter on the joke and engage them to join ter the conversation. Keep your forearms to yourself and avoid misunderstandings by cautiously judging the situation.
- Don’t be afraid to showcase people who you are and how you think. Some will love you, some won’t, but part of reducing shyness by flirting is being true to yourself. What they see is what they get. You are a shining strak, let others see it!
Shyness is not a вЂњdiseaseвЂќ vanaf se, but it can be very limiting to one’s capability to “carpe diem” or “seize the day.” For junior children and teenagers, it can be a cifra ter how they perceive themselves and the world around them. The Shyness Institute is a gathering of resources that includes books, websites, radiodifusión display podcasts, treatments and other information. Teenagers Health offers a look at topics that affect teenagers today, including shyness.
Life can be rough and pretty harsh if shyness keeps you from articulating the things that you want and need. Of course, not everything turns out the way wij want it to, but step one is to вЂњseeвЂќ yourself te the fresh role you are creating. Geflirt, smile, listen, react, and above all вЂ¦ do not be afraid.
A little shyness is inwards all of us, вЂњlittleвЂќ is good, it keeps us discreet, but don’t let shyness control the person you are. Only you can do that so carpe diem, Seize the Day!